motherhood mindset mentoring programme

You did a tonne of work prepping for birth, right? Pilates, yoga, NCT, hypnobirthing, book after website after book?

And then your baby was born, and it hit you like 6-9lbs of bricks- this is a fucking transition and a half.

You love it. You hate it. It’s instinctive. Everything you thought you knew is wrong. Each day (and night…) is more than just a rollercoaster. It’s a like someone forgot to strap you in. The peaks are higher than you could have imagined. The lows are despair you’ve never known. You’re winning. You’re struggling. Moment to moment.

It’s overwhelming.

How can it be this way for YOU? You. You’ve always mastered EVERYTHING. You’ve overcome challenges, exceeded expectations, taken control of your life. And now it feels like you’re starting from scratch.

You’re disappointed. Blindsided. Sad. Resentful. Angry. Guilty. Sometimes you’re happy, blissful even. And then back to the other stuff.

I was where you are. I was miserable. Trapped in a version of motherhood that was unfulfilling, and frankly, destroying my emotional wellbeing. My need to do it all exactly right, to nurture every one of their needs and whims, the physical, the emotional, the academic (yep- don’t tell me you haven’t thought about this stuff too) right from the off was my obsession.

I’m all or nothing. Perfect or pointless. Or I was.

I’d hear people say “happy mum, happy baby” and it seemed a way to justify all kinds of stuff which I just didn’t want to do. I didn’t want to escape motherhood for the night, dreading going back to be woken all night, paying the price for the break. I wanted to find fulfilment within it. I wanted to be connected to the experience and know I could find daily joy in meeting my baby’s needs. To find satisfaction in my efforts, rather than running away from my need to give them the best of everything. That was just more anxiety provoking.

I hear it all the time from women- they mention to someone they are depleted, and the response is “get out for a glass of wine with your friends/ dinner with your husband because you need to get away from baby for a bit.” That’s fine if you want to. But this ain’t the answer that many of us are after.

Because we are not content. And there’s only so long you can keep plastering over the cracks.

What if we accept that if we want to parent in a very conscientious way, it’s a lot. Especially when, for many hours, we are doing it alone. But that doesn’t mean it has to feel like crawling through treacle. Let’s recognise the challenges, and address them. And not just with wine/ gin/ cake.

What if you could wake up each day ready to enjoy your little one? What if you could meet their demands with calm compassion time and time again? What if it was easy to do this?

What if you had more energy? Physically, and emotionally.

What if you ended each day full of gratitude, curious to see what rewards tomorrow will bring?

What if you knew they were getting the best of you, but you were getting the best of you too? That there is plenty to go around.

I’m telling you, you can utterly transform your experience of motherhood (and life, actually) with some simple mindset tools.

I have. Completely. It’s no secret that my kids aren’t great sleepers. Here I am 14 months into life as a mother of 2, having been woken in the night almost 3000 times in this time (yep…) and I’ve learnt SO MUCH.

I initially turned to this stuff in order to cope with the sleep deprivation when it hit me hard around 6 months in. I distilled everything I know from 4 years of hypnobirthing, and the thousands of pounds and scores of hours I’ve invested in my professional development, and I found myself with a toolbox that changed my daily life.

I am still technically sleep deprived. We had a 5 hour stretch of sleep for the first time ever the other night and I had some kind of non sexual orgasm about it all day.

Last night he was back up to his usual tricks. And I’m ok. I’m having a great day. I feel positive and capable.

My circumstances haven’t changed much. My perspective has. And as I teach women in prep for birth- how you feel about your experience is everything. And guess what- you get to choose how you feel about motherhood.

If this sounds like a shift you could benefit from, you can get an amazing deal on our Mindset Mentoring for Motherhood online course until Mothers Day. Full price is £99+VAT,  you can take 80% OFF with the code MD18 and get it for £19.80 + VAT.

So what’s included?

  • Understanding Mindset Work- what it means, why it matters, how it works
  • Affirmations & Manifestation- the power of the stories you tell yourself
  • Energy- simple ways to increase yours
  • Gratitude- how to access more happiness
  • BONUS CONTENT- relaxation audios, tools to be instantly calmer, wallpapers

If you’ve read this far, you are most probably just like me. Someone who enjoys feeling in control of her own life. It’s one of the hardest things about motherhood- the surrender. I will help you to reframe your experience by challenging you to put these tools into practice. Taking responsibility for my own choices, and my own internal environment has been MASSIVE for me. This is how we regain autonomy over our lives.

Don’t get me wrong- sometimes I still lose my shit with my kids. It’s healthy, and human to live through a spectrum of emotions. But what has changed is that I do not dwell in that space. I step out of it pretty quickly- because it does not make me feel good. And what happens when we don’t feel good? We don’t mother like we want to. And then? The guilt. And getting off that spiral can be tough.

It feels good to be around women who get it, right? That’s why, alongside the teaching platform, I’m creating for you a closed Facebook group. In this space, you’ll get solidarity for sure, but that’s not all. I’ll be inviting some of my expert colleagues to deliver some additional content for you on the more practical side of parenting. Stuff like babywearing, baby massage, movement (for you and baby), feeding, and yes, the holy grail- sleep.

All of this stuff can make a real difference- again I echo what I tell women in their birth prep- knowledge is power. We feel calmer (and back in control) when we are informed.

I’ll be on hand to check in with how you’re doing with the content, checking your understanding and challenging you to recognise your progress. I’ll also share my own stories and real time motherhood stuff.

So what’s it to be? Will you keep drifting? Or will you take the reins?

Every day I tell myself, “I grew 2 humans and they came out of my body. I am basically God.” If I think I can’t cope now, I need to have a word with myself.

6 months before launching this course, if my husband was going to be an hour late home from work, it was the end of the world. I could not imagine getting through that last hour. Right now, he’s away for 3 days and I’m fine. I’m actually enjoying having my children to myself. Again, it doesn’t mean I’m immune to irritation or frustration. But I’ve learnt that, for the most part, I can let it slip away, and choose to feel another way.

There’s nothing fluffy about this stuff- it’s positive psychology, it’s biology, it makes absolute sense.

It’s time to invest in you- in your happiness, and by default, in your little one(s). It turns out happy mum does mean happy baby, but in a much more profound way than people think.

You can grab your spot here. The content is yours forever, to work through at a pace that suits you.

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13 affirmations for an empowered birth
You might think it’s a load of crap- repeating statements you’d like to believe. Truth is- our thinking is largely automatic, habitual, programmed. We may not even be aware of our conditioned responses, and in birth, these expectations may sabotage our experience. Beliefs like- it’s soooo painful, traumatic, undignified, unmanageable, terrifying, and so on...
Affirmations support you to shift your perspective, actually carving out new neural pathways in your brain with repetition, and enhanced by an emotional connection to the idea.
Our feelings about birth aren’t necessarily dependent on what happens, more how we engage within the experience, and how we frame it. .
Ask yourself- what would I need to believe in order to feel great about birth?
Here are 13 suggestions for you...
My surges (contractions) cannot be stronger than me because they are me.
I’m actually DOING it (like a mother). .
Each surge of my body brings my baby closer to me.
I free myself from the expectations of others and prioritise my own wellbeing.
My birth partner is by my side, and on my side.
My birth partner is a limitless source of oxytocin- totally convenient.
I am growing in confidence every day- it feels fantastic.
My baby’s arrival will be at the right time for us.
I am growing a human- getting it out has to be the easier bit. .
I am fully supported.
All the strength I need is within me.
I love my baby and my baby loves me.
I’m already a mother, and I act with courage from that place.
  • Now look, full disclosure, I’m atheist AF. But I still thought I’d enjoy a couple of nativities this morning. See my stories to learn how that didn’t quite come together👀🤦🏻‍♀️
It prompted me to think about how crucial it is for us to share these moments- where our hopes and expectations for how a situation will play out are met with a totally different reality.
Your feed might be flooded with beaming shepherds and shining stars, and if your experience was less fulfilling, it’s easy to feel hard done by and to enhance your disappointment through comparison.
I want you to know, everyone is having a mixed bag this Xmas period. For all the grotto snaps and skating shots there are plenty of mediocre, even miserable moments in family life for everyone. .
Look for the humour, be grateful when it’s good, surrender when it’s not quite how you hoped. Just think- Mary had to give birth in a stable- things could be worse 🤣🤪🐄🐑
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #honestlymothering #motherhoodlens #parentingtheshitoutoflife #nativity #perfectxmas #familylifestyle #honestmothering #motheringtogether #comparisonfree #surrender
  • Day 12 ❤️👇🏻 For the first 12 weeks of your baby’s life it is normal for them to behave (or to want to be treated) as though they are still in the womb. 
Human babies are born far less developed and capable than any other mammal, due to their need to be born at a time in which their proportionally large heads are still able to fit through our biped pelvises. 
Because of this it is beneficial for us to replicate the womb environment closely, as they physically and emotionally develop ready to ‘wake up’ around the 3 month mark. This period is also a huge transition for mothers; a time for healing and recovery however you birthed your baby.
Here are 12 ways in which you can support your baby, or be supported as a new mother during this time. For more details check my Facebook page as insta has kept this shorter! 
1.  GET A SLING – I can’t emphasise this one enough! 
2.  Skin to Skin Contact – It isn’t just for the first hours after birth, skin to skin contact is beneficial to humans of any age and is especially soothing during the fourth trimester.
3.  Read up on biologically normal infant sleep – Understand that it is NORMAL for your baby to fuss at being laid in a cot/moses basket/pram.
4.  Feed Baby On Demand – However you decide to feed your baby, allow them to guide you – expect them to feed little and often. 
5.  Day/Night – Accept that at least initially day and night will just be one continuous cycle of eat-sleep-poop repeat!
6.  Ask for Meals – guests want to come and see you all? Great, but don’t let them in if they’ve not brought you food!
7.  On the topic of food – prepare meals to freeze and stock the house up with healthy snacks before baby arrives.
8.  Let your partner bond with baby – sharing baths together, burping baby after a feed, changing nappies and taking baby for a walk in the pram / sling whilst you rest.
9.  Lower your expectations – accept that some days you will do nothing but keep the baby alive, that’s more than enough.
10.  Be kind to yourself with your body and recovery - It took 9 months to make this baby, expect it to take a while to get ‘back to normal’.
Continued in comments!
  • I said brrrrrrr ❄️ anyone else totally unprepared for the dip today?! .
Popped into @thenookboutique and grabbed a hat and gloves by @misspompom1 ❤️
Head into Chloe and grab a bargain whilst she’s still got stock. .
Got some beautiful Xmas bits in @natural_edge too. Such a joy to go broadway cruising KID FREE ❤️👌🏻
#shopsmall #shoplocal #shopindependent #loveleigh #loveleighonsea #doitlikeamother #shoplikeamother
  • brings us DAY 11 of the #doitlikeamother #alternativeadvent .
11 different types of sling to try
The world of slings can seem more than overwhelming to a new parent - or even an experienced one! There are so many different types and brands to choose from... As I often tell clients - this is exactly why sling libraries exist! It’s my job to know what’s out there, how it works, and what might suit you and your family’s needs best out of the bunch. Here’s are the 11 different types of sling and carrier we have available to try in the sling library...
1. Stretchy wrap
2. Close Caboo
3. Woven wrap
4. Ring sling
5. Buckle carrier
6. Toddler carrier
7. Pouch
8. Meh dai
9. Onbuhimo
10. Scootababy
11. Baby Bjorn .
And in case that wasn’t enough… We are hoping to add some brand new twin carriers very soon! 😍 .
(For a full description of each type of carrier, head to the Do It Like A  Mother Sling Library & Support Facebook page…)
All of these are available to hire from our drop-in sessions, so come along to Lunch Club, Cake Club, Hockley or Leigh Community Centre (check the Events tab on the Facebook page for details of dates, times and locations) and we can get you sorted. We're always happy to help with your own carrier too, whether it's listed above or not! I will almost certainly have come across it before... And even if I haven't, I love a challenge!
So what have you tried? What would you like to try? What's your favourite type of sling? We'd love to hear from you! 😍 
#theresaslingforthat .
#doitlikeamotherhood #doitlikeamotherhq #slinglibrary #slingconsultant #lifeofaslinglibrarian #babywearingeducator #babywearing #fourthtrimester #bucklecarrier #stretchywrap #carryingmatters #carryingconnects #wearallthebabies #babywearing #toddlerwearing #wovenwrap #babycarrier #ringsling
  • Swipe for Jingle Bells rendition in the hell hole that was my lounge this morning Pre 7am.
It’s official- Rory loves to sing.
Maybe I’ll send him round yours @sing_mother_tucker for some tips?! 👀😂🥰
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #jinglebells #jinglebellrock #familymornings #singlikeyoumeanit #xmascarols #xmassongs #toddlersofinsta #roryfitz
  • 10 hours of our hypnobirthing antenatal course... Let’s get it straight- any access you have to hypnobirthing skills is better than none. But I get a bit sad when people are left thinking they’ve had the full benefits of hypnobirthing without the way we do this.  In 10 hours with us, you and your partner will learn 🤔 how our birth culture has evolved to its current state (that’s super helpful if you wanna challenge your fear) 👀 how your perception of birth is built, and why you might wanna question those sources 🧐💪🏻the reality of the mind- body connection at work in your every day life and how you can play it to your advantage in birth 👄👂🏻how the words you speak and hear frame your experience (how to play that too) 🥰😱 the hormones of labour and how to use your environment to facilitate optimal states 💪🏻why birth doesn’t have to be pain free (and PS watch out for anyone telling you it will be) to be off the charts fantastic 👌🏻how you can use specific types of touch to increase your comfort 💨3 breathing techniques to ease the sensations and help you zen out- even if you’re not the zen type. Especially if you’re not, actually. 🧐how to use affirmations rewire your mind 😴 how to cultivate a trance like state of relaxation on demand 💪🏻how to prepare, position and use your body to minimise risk of injury and increase changes of smooth descent 👶🏼 how to encourage your baby into an optimal position for birth 🏡 🏥 considerations for your choice (and it’s ALWAYS your choice) of place of birth, and how to make hospital feel more like home ⏰ length of pregnancy & induction of labour- what’s involved, your options, the guidelines, and how to keep it empowered if you go for it 🤰🏻things you can do to optimise a Caesarean birth for you and your baby 🧐how to make solid decisions you can feel great about if things go off your chosen track. We’ve got 3, yes, 3 Birth plans for you to come up with, covering you against a sense of loss of autonomy- a significant contributing factor in birth trauma 👥throughout it all, a clear role for your birth partner, with plenty of practical steps that can take to make it actual team work  Cont... 👇
  • I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Totally fine, except what if you didn’t bring what you needed?
Flexing to unfolding circumstances is a great skill, but if we’re not careful, we may find ourselves way off track and unequipped to keep moving towards our goals- i.e., the life we want. That’s a pretty big deal. .
On Friday January 11th, I’m running a workshop called “2019 is the year I will...”. .
Not available to book yet, just save the date if you fancy a more intentional year. Especially if you’re looking back on 2018 like HOW DID I END UP HERE THOUGH?!
I’m working on a little creative collab for it too ✨👀
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #intentionsetting #intentionalliving #intentional #goalsetting2019 #createyourlife #createyourlifestyle #sayyestoyourself #sayyestoyou #sayyes #mindsetcoach #mindsetofgreatness #mindsetofexcellence #mothersinbusiness #womeninbusinessuk #womeninbusiness #chalkwell #leighonsea #essex
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