There is an unwritten rule that we have to LOVE being a parent, which is all great if you do, but what if you don’t?
It’s all part of this culture we have here in the UK of being the perfect mother which is all great too until we realise that the perfect parent doesn’t exist (perfect by whose standards??) and it starts to impact how we feel about parenting in general.
So what if you love some of it but not all of it and feel that you can do some things ‘perfectly’ but not other things. And what if you start to wonder what’s wrong with you if you don’t love all of it and can’t be that elusive ‘perfect parent’?
IT’S NORMAL NOT TO LOVE BEING A PARENT! AND IT’S NORMAL NOT TO HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER!
It really is.
It’s all part of becoming a parent and as we all have different experiences and upbringings we’ll all find different parts of parenting joyful or not and that’s OK.
We might also find we have all our sh*t together ‘perfectly’ some days and other days not at all and that’s all OK too.
Parenting is not some kind of competition to see who is parenting in the ‘best way’ and it’s also not something that is freely open to judgement from others either.
We have enough to deal with in this new world of being a parent that we find ourselves in without this added pressure, whether that’s internal judgement or external.
How are you feeling about parenting right now?
Let me know, I’m here for it.