DILAM’S THOUGHTS
Are you striving to be the perfect parent?
Perfection is a toxic desire. We are not supposed to be perfect. The challenge is not to be perfect, it’s to be whole. Jane Fonda Perfection, it’s something that many
How To Deal With The Emotional Turmoil Of Being A Parent
I’m sat here looking at my kids playing together. I feel emotional! There are 8 years between them and the youngest has just been given the right of passage by
5 things we accept as normal when we become parents, that aren’t.
In a single moment you’re a parent and nothing will ever be the same again as this little person needs you for everything. It’s a lot of pressure and can
Do You Take Care of Yourself? Really Take Care of Yourself?
“To be a good parent, you need to take care of yourself so that you can have the physical and emotional energy to take care of your family” Michelle ObamaYep
Mother’s Day disappointment?
Do you get Mother’s Day disappointment? A feeling that affects your mood for the rest of the day when it could have been quite a happy normal Sunday was it
It’s OK to NOT love parenting
There is an unwritten rule that we have to LOVE being a parent, which is all great if you do, but what if you don’t? It’s all part of
Do you know about Fetal-maternal microchimerism?
Trigger Warning – baby loss There’s a post on our Instagram that I keep going back to. You might have seen it – the incredible illustration by @angelica.ch.r of two women standing
Just Because Everything Is Different Doesn’t Mean Anything Has Changed
“Just because everything is different doesn’t mean anything has changed.” Irene Peter I’m not sure how I feel about this quote.In some respects yes this is true! But in others not.
There Is Only One Way To Parent
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀There is only one way to parent. YOUR OWN WAY. But you knew that already, right? We put so much pressure on ourselves to parent ‘the way’ we’re told is
8 Ways To Deal With Parental Burnout
Do you know if you’re burnt out? Parental burnout is real because parenting is hard and none stop. It might be the best job you’ve ever had or one you’re
Grief
Every time I hear, say or think the word GRIEF, the vison and feeling that envelops me is darkness, grey and gloomy. I can almost feel the cold and wet
My Medicated Pregnancy. A tale of working through shame, guilt and depression as a mum to be and parent.
Trigger warning; this post covers an unpleasant (but later discredited) way of talking about taking anti-depressants while pregnant by a health professional and may be triggering for some. ‘A Toxic
Top 7 Baby Essentials
by Nurture Collective Becoming a parent is a real roller coaster of emotions from excitement, joy, anticipation and sometimes feeling overwhelmed with what you may or may not need so
The Beginning
TRIGGER WARNING – SEIZURE My story begins aged 15. I wanted nothing more than to fit in, be accepted and liked. I was shy and struggled with anxiety, not that
Why is baby loss such a taboo subject?
*trigger Warning-Story of stillbirth Words by Natalie Louise Smith. October is #babylossawarenessmonth and Chrissy Teigan told the World that her and her husband John Legends baby boy Jack had died. I
Remembering Your Baby
As the 18th year of Baby Loss Awareness Week comes to a close, let’s focus now on how families can remember their lost angels. No matter when you suffer a
It took us 7 years, 5 rounds of IVF and much much more…
GUEST BLOG BY HELEN **Trigger Warning** I always hoped I’d be robust enough to tell my story. I kept a diary of events since our conception journey began back in
A TFMR is a heartbreaking decision that parents have to live with for the rest of their lives
GUEST BLOG BY AMY **Trigger Warning** My partner & I met later in life & so we knew what we wanted & things moved quickly! After 16 months together we
A chemical miscarriage during the pandemic
GUEST BLOG BY FAYE **Trigger Warning** I wish I’d have known about Cradle at the time. We have our just turned 2-year-old and decided to start trying again because like most
My Darling Little One
I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of June, by the time I finally had surgery it was the beginning of September, but my baby didn’t grown past 6 weeks.
I couldn’t stop apologising
GUEST BLOG BY LAURA **Trigger Warning** Missed Miscarriage Our Little Sparrow – 28th November 2018 Due August 2019 I was so excited when we found out I was pregnant for
We Need to Talk about Early Pregnancy Baby Loss – Here’s My Story…
**TRIGGER WARNING** I’m going to be bold and share something very personal with you all, in the hopes that it encourages others to speak up, seek help, or know that
Don’t believe you can do it, KNOW you can do it!
On the afternoon of Friday 17 July (40+4) we went for a long walk along the seafront at Chalkwell beach. I was feeling Braxton Hix contractions slightly stronger than usual,
Extension of maternity leave or furlough – what is right for YOU?
2020 has become an unprecedented year and we’re only halfway through it. We’re on the cusp of slowly returning to life ‘as normal,’ but there are challenges ahead that we
“Wow, you’re so big. Are you sure it’s not twins?”
Has anyone heard this old chestnut when pregnant? Not particularly reassuring, is it?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀If you are expecting twins, what a wonderful thing. Two little bundles of scrumptiousness! But if your bump
“Fed is Best” Erm, no. Supported and Informed is.
A lot of people have been throwing this phrase around, for a long time. In fact, one highly regarded antenatal education business said it on social last week and it
Give Thanks Like A Mother 2020
This aim of this campaign is to prompt families who’ve been cared for under Southend to give thanks to the amazing midwives who may have touched their lives. So often,
Vote Like A Mother- Please, Have An Opinion
Today’s Vote Like A Mother comes from the inspiring Jayne Clark- Denyer of Organically Epic. (If you missed the first piece, Our NHS literally keeps my son alive, you can
Vote Like A Mother- ‘Our NHS literally keeps my son alive”
In this mini series, I’ve asked women I respect and admire to share their perspectives on this upcoming election. A term I use to describe what I do in my
Not Another Mummy Business
Last week I had the absolute joy of speaking at my client and friend Rebecca Caution‘s event. I met loads of interesting women there. Chatting to one of them afterwards,
