This growing community was founded in 2013 (formerly HypnoBirthdays) by Keri Jarvis. Chloe Mulholland & Steph Kidd joined in 2017, and 2018 sees Chloe Westmore, Chloe Thompson-Booth and Lizzie Start coming on board. Yep. We LOVE a Chloe. If your name is Chloe there is a significant chance you will work with us one day…

The Do It Like a Mother Team

Keri Jarvis

Hypnobirthing in Southend

chloe mulholland

Hypnobirthing in Upminster

Steph Kidd

steph kidd

Hypnobirthing in Southend

chloe westmore

Infant Massage and Baby Brunch Southend

chloe thompson-booth

Emotional wellbeing support in Southend

Lizzie Start

Sling hire and babywearing expert in Southend


Mother (Louis is 5, Rory is 2, they do not sleep and ), Wife, Birth Addict (not that I want to keep doing it forever- thinking 2 littles will be quite enough. But addicted to, obsessed by, totally dedicated to enabling parents to give their babies births that they all feel great about). 

In my pre birthy state, I got myself a serious degree in Management and Maths (I am no creative type- I like strategies, and results) and worked in store management for M&S. I actually loved it (mostly), but having had my eyes opened to a world I never knew existed, how could I turn away? 

After Louis was born in 2013, I retrained to teach hypnobirthing, and our course has evolved MASSIVELY during that time. If you missed them, you can check out each of our hypnobirthing experiences here,  Louis (Eggle, Loubags, Bagsy, Louis Pig, Piglet) and Welcoming Rory. 

I have been SO LUCKY to have supported around 300 families in welcoming their babies so far, and continue to be amazed at the power of a couple who are well prepared and in it together- always in awe of my amazing gang. 

I say it with a straight face- I am seriously jealous of my clients as they prepare to give birth, knowing that if all goes to plan, I’ll never get to do it again. 

It was the most transformational experience of my life. I did not see that coming. I want all the families I work with to come out of it feeling like legends, superheroes, queens and kings. You can have a read of what some of them have to say about it on the Birth Stories page. 

My experience of the early postnatal period the second time round has prompted me to grow my offering. Realising how unprepared I had been the first time, vs the access I’d had to other experts and tools on take 2, I’m fairly surprised I survived it. I want all women to be armed with everything they need to make early motherhood as smooth as possible, I want them to know that they are nailing it. 

On from there, I can’t ignore the way that finding and embracing my purpose work has brought me incredible joy and fulfilment, and ultimately has made me a better mother. I honestly believe that the world will become a better place for everyone as more women step into their potential, and so coaching them into their power is off the charts fantastic.

keri's blog

chloe mulholland (Better Birth support- online)

So, where to start? Well from the beginning I suppose; Born in Newham, brought up in Upminster. From a family of cockneys, I am a Londoner at heart but love a breath of fresh country air.

After a couple of forays into a microbiology degree and a stint working for the emergency services, I found my true calling and became a midwife. I did my 3 years of training with Kings’ College, London and graduated with First-Class Honours in 2012.

That was over 6 years ago now and during that time I have had my eyes opened to the immense power of birth. A transformative, yet vulnerable time in a woman’s life. And a time that I am determined to make better for as many families as I can. Of course- I had a baby of my own too (her birth story is here, if you’d like to know how that went down) and that only continued to add to the magnitude of my own transformation as woman in this modern world.

I continue to work part-time, as a midwife in London and until recently I have been teaching hypnobirthing and antenatal classes in Upminster, too.

I love these roles and I absolutely love supporting new families to have the best start in parenthood that they possibly can but it’s not enough.

I am constantly reminded of the flaws in the maternity care system. I constantly see women being set up to fail, midwives and doctors unable to give the care they so desperately want to give and fathers just left on the sidelines. It has to change.

So, for now, I’m taking a step back from teaching and focussing my energies on where they are needed now- in changing the system itself. In campaigning for a better journey through pregnancy, birth and beyond for all families.

Although, I’m not currently available to work face-to-face, I am always available via email to offer any support you might need- so please do contact me with any questions.

CHLOE M'S blog

Steph Kidd (Private Hypnobirthing and Pregnancy Relaxation in Southend)

Born and raised in Essex, currently living in Leigh on Sea. Mum of one notoriously chatty toddler Florence, aka Flossie (no idea where she got the talking gene from..!), and engaged to my partner of 10 years, Matt. My major passions are birth, childhood, breastfeeding, and crochet. I’m also a self confessed cloth nappy addict!

My career up until now has been in childcare. I spent a short time after qualifying working in nurseries, then 6 months as a home care assistant for children with medical needs, before moving into nannying which I have been doing since 2008. I’ve been lucky enough to work with some amazing families across Essex and London in this time, mostly those with young babies and toddlers. I’ve had such a blast doing so, and learned so much about children and their unique personalities / needs at the same time. I currently work part time looking after 2 boys locally, and have been very fortunate that Florence is able to come with me, so she barely leaves my side!

Falling pregnant in 2014 introduced me to the world of hypnobirthing, and I was fortunate enough to be one of the first Calm Birth School students!  Although I’ve never been ‘scared’ of birth -in fact I’ve always been completely fascinated by it- I rarely heard anything positive from the women around me. My reading and research over the years had led me to positive birth stories though, and knew I wanted to aim for as natural a birth as possible. What I also knew was that I needed some extra education and techniques to use if I was going to navigate my pregnancy and labour the way I wanted to, as like most of women I had a limited understanding of how best to work with my body.

The Calm Birth School’s approach was completely on my wavelength, and with that under my belt I felt in control even when both pregnancy and labour threw a few curveballs at us. The feelings of strength, pride and empowerment that I felt after my labour got me thinking about how I could help more women achieve a birth they feel this good about. So this year I trained with KGHypnobirthing so I can do just that by offering hypnobirthing classes and pregnancy relaxation. Keri has been a fantastic support to me during this time, and I am so happy to be here on the Do It Like A Mother team, and excited to be teaching the same method which I know worked so well for me!

STEPH'S blog

Chloe Westmore (Infant Massage and Baby Brunch Southend)

Born and raised in beautiful Leigh-on-Sea, I still live here with my husband Tom and my two gorgeous daughters Delilah & Aida. I have a degree in English & Drama, and trained in the performing arts from an early age. I enjoyed a few years working in the industry, however as the bills kept rolling in and the auditions slowed down, I became dependant on more regular work. When I fell pregnant with my first little girl, I decided to look into hypnobirthing and was self taught. I managed to have a wonderful birthing experience despite complications, but I realised pretty quickly how transformative yet terrifying becoming a newborn mother was. There were plenty of tears and many a day and night of feeling utterly alone and out of my depth. I remember feeling powerful at my ability to give birth to such a perfect little creature, but felt completely vulnerable and unprepared for motherhood, especially in those precious but exhausting early weeks. Due to financial problems, I had to return to work when Delilah was 5 months old, which was necessary but unfulfilling.

Fast forward 4 years and another pregnancy with daughter number 2 and I felt completely different. I wanted to build my own business doing something that I loved that incorporated my passions, whilst enabling me to be at home with my baby. And that’s when I met Keri. I started attending her Pregnancy Relaxation evenings and straight away I not only felt relaxed in her presence, but always left the classes feeling invigorated. Those special evening really illustrated just how powerful women can be, especially when they’re lifted up and supported by one another. I had the most amazing birth experience with Aida and through self education on postpartum care, I even enjoyed those special but hectic first weeks getting to know my baby.

That was my lightbulb moment! I had realised I was passionate about supporting and encouraging ‘newborn mothers’ and their babies in their parenthood journey.

When Keri approached me about joining her Do It Like A Mother team, I seized the opportunity and decided to train under the incredible Peter Walker, an internationally renowned physical therapist who has worked with babies, children and parents for nearly 40 years. Combining my experiences of motherhood with a qualification as a Development Baby Massage teacher, I hope to encourage and equip new parents with the skills and confidence to communicate with their child using the language of loving touch and therapeutic play. The benefits will be seen instantly and I can’t want to meet all of you incredible mummys and mummys to be. xxx

CHLOE W'S blog

Chloe THOMPSON-BOOTH (Emotional wellbeing)

I am a mother (to my lovely [most of the time] toddler), lover of mothers, and wellbeing warrior; fiercely passionate about supporting and promoting emotional wellbeing in parents. I have worked as a Psychologist for nearly 10 years, initially in Child Development research and later training as a Clinical Psychologist.

My training involved working in a variety of services across London, ranging from child to adult mental health, sexual health and psychosexual therapy, dementia services, and paediatrics. However, I soon developed a specialist interest in perinatal mental health, conveniently around the same time that I found out I was expecting my son.

I started running groups to treat anxiety in expectant parents as part of a research project, which I absolutely loved doing – it was amazing to be able to support women and their partners as they made their journey into parenthood.

During my own pregnancy I was lucky enough to meet the awesome Keri Jarvis when I completed her amazing Hypnobirthing course. When Keri said she was looking to expand her team, I jumped at the chance! I feel very fortunate to be part of a team of wonderful women who are using their various talents to support mothers (& partners!) in a variety of ways.

I am so excited to begin my work offering Emotional Wellbeing Workshops for mothers; these groups are designed to offer support and resources for promoting psychological wellbeing and resilience in the postnatal period.

Because, let’s face it, being a parent is as hard as it is wonderful, and we could all do with a wellbeing boost at times?! I am so looking forward to meeting and working with lots of lovely Mums and sharing my top tips for wellbeing in Motherhood.

CHLOE T-B'S blog

lizzie start (sling hire and babywearing support)

I am Lizzie, an experienced educator and mother of two (Big Brother and Baby Brother) living in Westcliff-on-Sea. My background is in teaching, and I’ve worked in the fields of childcare and education for over fifteen years. I’m a qualified babywearing consultant (aka slings!) and have trained with both School of Babywearing and Slingababy.

Big Brother was born in June 2014, and he was a classic “high needs”, “clingy”, “Velcro” baby (i.e. a totally normal human infant) who wanted to be held most of the time and hated being put down. We quickly learned that a sling helped to calm and comfort him while also allowing us to get on with the practicalities of life – planning a house move, travelling to see family and friends, hanging out the washing, etc. We had a basic stretchy wrap which did the job, and in October 2014 it was how I managed the flight to Norway as we made our move to a new country with a four month old baby!

Babywearing was a real lifesaver through our first Scandinavian winter (our decidedly English buggy was no use whatsoever in the snow and ice!) and I made friends who introduced me to different types of slings and helped me to settle into our new life. I was also privileged to meet a number of amazing women who were supporting the international community of mums living in Oslo, a community I was welcomed into with open arms.

While slings and carriers were and are a lot more mainstream in Norway, there were no sling libraries, and nowhere to really get any support or to learn how to carry safely and comfortably. I had visited a sling library while I was pregnant and again after Big Brother was born, and I knew that they were a great source of support to many families across the UK. Together with my very special friend Magz, we set up Oslo Sling Library in early 2015, and in July 2015 I flew to London for my consultancy training.

Fast forward a year and I was pregnant with Baby Brother and preparing to return to Essex. We had grown from a fortnightly meet in my living room with 12 second-hand slings and a pot of coffee, to a busy drop-in session twice a week as part of a local community group supporting parents in various ways (not too dissimilar to Do It Like A Mother), with a collection of over 150 slings.

I knew I wanted to continue to support other families when I got home, and made plans to set up my own sling library and consultancy once Baby Brother was born. He made his arrival in September 2016 and was in a sling by day two! With a toddler to run around after it just made sense to keep him close while we got on with daily life, and carrying enabled me to meet both boys’ needs simultaneously. Sling Start was launched shortly afterwards, and I started offering sling library drop-ins in Westcliff, Southend and Hockley, and consultations across Southend, Rochford and Castle Point.

In early 2018 I began to work with Keri and her lovely clients at Do It Like A Mother, and in April we launched Cake Club, our weekly drop-in session combining the sling library, infant feeding support and parenting solidarity – with an emphasis on tea and cake at all times too! I joined the team officially in September 2018 and I now have a permanent base at HQ. I offer regular parent workshops on a range of topics, including newborn babywearing and feeding in slings, and attend as many of our regular group sessions as I can to support the parents that are part of this amazing community. 

In addition to the services that we offer locally, I also run Born to Carry peer support training courses around the country (and further afield, if required!) and am able to offer bespoke training to sling libraries and other professionals. 

I cannot overemphasise or underestimate the positive impact that babywearing has had on my life and the lives of my children and family. Learning about slings and meeting other “slingy” people made my life infinitely easier and more enjoyable as a new parent back in 2014. I love being able to give new parents their hands back, reassuring them that it is completely normal and totally ok for their tiny new baby to want to be held all the time. I get a kick out of hoisting a toddler or pre-schooler up on their parent’s back for the first time, giving them the freedom to go for a hike or travel without needing to rely on a buggy.

I am a bit of an advocate for instinctive and responsive parenting, whatever that may mean to each individual family. Many of us come to parenthood with the weight of a thousand opinions upon us, being told how and when to do things, feeling that we have to conform, and that our babies need to behave and develop in a certain way. I meet many families who just want to be told that they’re doing a good job and that their baby is normal. I have spent a lot of time learning about infant behaviour, biological norms and the societal pressures that parents are dealing with today, and it gives me great satisfaction and comfort to be able to support other parents through the challenges of modern parenting.

Lizzie's blog

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  • As much as I wanna love the @johnlewisandpartners ad, and I do feel the feels, I also felt a bit bothered by it.
If you’re a parent who is worrying about how you’re going to afford to buy your children anything much at all for Christmas, I imagine it’s deeply triggering. .
I believe the most important gifts we give our children are the cultivation of their self worth, and the tools to navigate the world with kindness and love. I know many people who are financially privileged (or have been) and yet crippled by self doubt and fear, manifesting in aggression and disconnection.
My point really- it’s not what material things we get that matters. BUT. Every child should get something at Christmas, right? And when we come together as a community to ensure that happens, we give not just the material, but the sense that they matter.
If you’re local to us, you can drop a gift for a child living with Domestic Abuse to for 10 days from Friday 30th November. They will be going to @sos_btc where they’ll be checked and wrapped and distributed. For more deets, please see my Facebook event, I’ll add link to bio- Gift Like A Mother SOSDAP. Any Qs just ask. .
#doitlikeamother #breakthecycle #doitlikeamotherhood #xmasgifts #familiessupportingfamilies #womensupportwomen #locallove #givethemlove #lovewinsalways #leighonsea #westcliff #southend #chalkwell #southend #southendonsea #essex
  • Last night I went to a workshop with Sarah @guidedharmonyuk and Shirley from @theseashack. I ugly cried ALL THE WAY THROUGH. .
In the company of @instannnnagram, Gemma @theseashack, @photography_by_petra, @gemmabennett_ @the_reiki_room and a couple of other beauties I can’t find on here to tag.
What struck me was the way we pass the baton for holding the space. And what a fantastic thing that is. The way we lean on one another, and put our unique skill mixes to use at different times to inspire and support the rest.
I’ve had reiki and EFT with Gemma. Petra provides me with the most beautiful images for my brand. 
I’ve enjoyed an uplifting Full Moon Supper thanks to the hospitality of Anna. I’ve been supported by Ella in a pop up we arranged caring for midwives. I’ve bought beautifully thought provoking pieces from Gemma and Shirley. And Sarah heals me, my husband, my mum and dad even, time and time again. .
And many of them have invited me to support them- Hypnobirthing, mindset and business coaching online and at our real life mornings . .
It’s the most peaceful feeling to be so accepted. To share the load. I am SO #blessed #sorrynotsorry to have women like these (and plenty more of them I could name) on my doorstep.
Who do you love in your local (or online) community of women? Salute your sisters 💁🏼‍♀️❤️
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #womensupportwomen #womensupportingwomen #feminisminaction #feministmovement #femaleeconomy #womenempowerment #womenhelpingwomen #womeninspiringwomen #community #supportlocal #sistersquad #holistichealing #holistichealthandwellness #strongertogether #togetherwearestronger #leighonsea #southend #essex
  • My childcare swap with @photography_by_petra is the gift that keeps on giving. At the mo, we each have them 9 hours a week- that is 💵 💵 💵 saves on childcare costs. AND. The time I actually have them, they are so much easier to entertain together than Rory on his own.
I always think surely this is how it’s meant to work- families supporting each other, parenting together? We are so fortunate, I’d massively encourage anyone to consider embracing an arrangement like this ❤️
#roryandquinn #doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #childcareswap #childcare #parentingtheshitoutoflife #motheringmyarseoff #mothering #honestlymothering #parentingtips  #parentinghacks #feministmothering #motheringlikeaboss #motherlikeamother #leighonsea #chalkwell #westcliff #southend
  • Traditionally, Hypnobirthing has urged pregnant women to avoid negative stories. I’ve been that Hypnobirthing teacher waxing lyrical about the impact on the subconscious.
It’s true to say that the damage can be real- your brain is like gaaaaahhhh 😱😭🤮😖 and holds onto the feelings. Mind body connection kicks in during birth, body responds in fear and it’s extremely detrimental. (That’s the quick version).
But. If you only allow yourself to consume perfect, pain free birth stories (you know, unicorn births 🦄) and that’s not what you get, because well, REALITY... then you may find yourself feeling isolated, your love for yourself and your capacity eroded, left outside alone of the positive pack. .
I saw a comment in a group today suggesting that Hypnobirthing doesn’t contribute to birth trauma, but I believe it can and it does if it’s not delivered in a fully considered way.
Here’s the truth. Even very positive experiences of birth (and the immediate postnatal period) almost always have negative or challenging or traumatic moments. And if we share these from a perspective of gently nudging others to learn what we wish we knew, that can actually be really helpful. .
Not the scary headlines, but the lessons. What we did, or we wish we had done to ease our struggles. The advocacy we needed or the reframing we used.
If we come from love, we are good. In a weird way, our silence perpetuates the disconnection and the problems within the system. Not that we are responsible for the change unless we feel able to be. 
If we come from needing to process our own stuff, we can welcome in the right support. @traumatic_birth_recovery has practitioners all over the place, @clare_motherssupportingmothers local to me, and some of my team training in this brilliant method next year too. .
Head to the birth stories section of our website for varied, positive, imperfect births, and to @tellmeagoodbirthstory ❤️
I would love to know what you think...
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #birthrights #birthbetter #betterbirth #betterbirths #hypnobirth #hypnobirthing #hypnobirthingworks #hypnobirthingcourse #positivebirth #positivebirthmovement #pregnancy #preggo
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They’re printed by an independent local business.
And £5 from every full price sweatshirt goes to @sos_btc .
So they’re a great gift to yourself or to love another mother, and they are about as ethical as it fricking gets.
They’re also soft and cosy with satisfyingly long sleeves..., and printed with lilac (which is totes on trend much to the dismay of
Available online now, link in bio.
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  • This is no ordinary pop up shop! Combining our popular support groups with the chance to shop small and local as the festivities kick off. (Its Leigh Lights that evening- you can get set with a sling to ease your way, learn how to stay warm safely etc).
There will be storytime with @bookaliciousuk as well as our signature sweatshirts, T-shirts and pins on sale, plus beautiful and inspiring products by @theseashack @girlfridayembroidery and @hugos_pantry cake (already drooling).
Further vendors to be announced soon. Come and have a mooch and a munch, bring all your worries and let’s reconnect you to the motherhood before the madness kicks in.
All welcome ✨💕 Friday 30th November 10-1 .
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #shoplikeamother #locallove #loveleigh #leighlove #loveleighlife #shopsmall #shoplocal #shopindependent #xmasshopping #leighlights #chalkwell #leighonsea #southend #essex
  • LEST WE FORGET. If you’re still looking for a good enough reason to live your life to the fullest potential, to experience your greatest joy and fulfilment... if you’re still unclear that human connection is the biggest opportunity for greatness we have, remember this.
Many people gave their lives so that we wouldn’t be imprisoned by hateful beliefs and oppressive categorisation. When we see ourselves as separate from each other, and focus on our differences, when we act through fear, we are the worst of ourselves. It’s a slippery slope.
How would you live your today if you really recalled that others gave theirs for your freedom? And if you truly noticed how easy it was for a few powerful people to mobilise ordinary people to murder each other, what consciousness would you bring to your perceptions of others today? In what ways could you cast your conditioned assumptions aside?
With gratitude and love, we remember ❤️
#doitlikeamother #lestweforget
  • Who is coming to @leigh_pop_up today?! So many of my faves are gonna be there ❤️✨
I’ve got a book to collect from @bookaliciousuk, gorgeous mindset related art from @theseashack to stock up on, I want cards from @happybobkatstudios and soaps from @beanandboy and everything from @oflifeandlemons and @black_and_sigi 🤗
Luckily is coming with me to sell our wares so we can each pop off for a spree or a wee...
Special prices on our sweatshirts and T-shirts today, and a few other goodies available.
See you there! 12.30-4.30 👌🏻
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #shopsmall #shoplocal #shopindependent #choosesmall #chooseindependent #justacard #locallove #lovelocal #loveleigh #loveleighonsea #shopsmall #leighonsea #chalkwell #westcliff #southend #essex

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