This growing community was founded in 2013 (formerly HypnoBirthdays) by Keri Jarvis. Chloe Mulholland & Steph Kidd joined in 2017, and 2018 sees Chloe Westmore, Chloe Thompson-Booth and Lizzie Start coming on board. Yep. We LOVE a Chloe. If your name is Chloe there is a significant chance you will work with us one day…

The Do It Like a Mother Team

Keri Jarvis

Hypnobirthing in Southend

chloe mulholland

Hypnobirthing in Upminster

Steph Kidd

steph kidd

Hypnobirthing in Southend

chloe westmore

Infant Massage and Baby Brunch Southend

chloe thompson-booth

Emotional wellbeing support in Southend

Lizzie Start

Sling hire and babywearing expert in Southend


Mother (Louis is 5, Rory is 2, they do not sleep and ), Wife, Birth Addict (not that I want to keep doing it forever- thinking 2 littles will be quite enough. But addicted to, obsessed by, totally dedicated to enabling parents to give their babies births that they all feel great about). 

In my pre birthy state, I got myself a serious degree in Management and Maths (I am no creative type- I like strategies, and results) and worked in store management for M&S. I actually loved it (mostly), but having had my eyes opened to a world I never knew existed, how could I turn away? 

After Louis was born in 2013, I retrained to teach hypnobirthing, and our course has evolved MASSIVELY during that time. If you missed them, you can check out each of our hypnobirthing experiences here,  Louis (Eggle, Loubags, Bagsy, Louis Pig, Piglet) and Welcoming Rory. 

I have been SO LUCKY to have supported around 300 families in welcoming their babies so far, and continue to be amazed at the power of a couple who are well prepared and in it together- always in awe of my amazing gang. 

I say it with a straight face- I am seriously jealous of my clients as they prepare to give birth, knowing that if all goes to plan, I’ll never get to do it again. 

It was the most transformational experience of my life. I did not see that coming. I want all the families I work with to come out of it feeling like legends, superheroes, queens and kings. You can have a read of what some of them have to say about it on the Birth Stories page. 

My experience of the early postnatal period the second time round has prompted me to grow my offering. Realising how unprepared I had been the first time, vs the access I’d had to other experts and tools on take 2, I’m fairly surprised I survived it. I want all women to be armed with everything they need to make early motherhood as smooth as possible, I want them to know that they are nailing it. 

On from there, I can’t ignore the way that finding and embracing my purpose work has brought me incredible joy and fulfilment, and ultimately has made me a better mother. I honestly believe that the world will become a better place for everyone as more women step into their potential, and so coaching them into their power is off the charts fantastic.

keri's blog

chloe mulholland (Better Birth support- online)

So, where to start? Well from the beginning I suppose; Born in Newham, brought up in Upminster. From a family of cockneys, I am a Londoner at heart but love a breath of fresh country air.

After a couple of forays into a microbiology degree and a stint working for the emergency services, I found my true calling and became a midwife. I did my 3 years of training with Kings’ College, London and graduated with First-Class Honours in 2012.

That was over 6 years ago now and during that time I have had my eyes opened to the immense power of birth. A transformative, yet vulnerable time in a woman’s life. And a time that I am determined to make better for as many families as I can. Of course- I had a baby of my own too (her birth story is here, if you’d like to know how that went down) and that only continued to add to the magnitude of my own transformation as woman in this modern world.

I continue to work part-time, as a midwife in London and until recently I have been teaching hypnobirthing and antenatal classes in Upminster, too.

I love these roles and I absolutely love supporting new families to have the best start in parenthood that they possibly can but it’s not enough.

I am constantly reminded of the flaws in the maternity care system. I constantly see women being set up to fail, midwives and doctors unable to give the care they so desperately want to give and fathers just left on the sidelines. It has to change.

So, for now, I’m taking a step back from teaching and focussing my energies on where they are needed now- in changing the system itself. In campaigning for a better journey through pregnancy, birth and beyond for all families.

Although, I’m not currently available to work face-to-face, I am always available via email to offer any support you might need- so please do contact me with any questions.

CHLOE M'S blog

Steph Kidd (Private Hypnobirthing & Pregnancy Relaxation, Cloth nappies and sustainable living support in southend)

Born and raised in Essex, currently living in Leigh on Sea. I am engaged to my partner of 11 years, Matt and mum to chatterbox Flossie (3.5 years), and danger magnet Lenny (8 months). My life passions are birth, childhood & education, breastfeeding, low impact living and crochet. I’m also a self confessed cloth nappy addict which I am now putting to good use in the community (see below!)

My career up until recently has been in childcare, primarily nannying which I started in 2008. I’ve been lucky enough to work with some amazing families across Essex and London in this time, mostly those with young babies and toddlers, and I had such a blast doing so whilst learning more about child development and caring for young children in a nurturing way. I have obviously grown upon this even further this since having my own children – understanding more about infant feeding, sleep, babywearing and the realities of biological norms vs social norms.

Falling pregnant in 2014 introduced me to the world of hypnobirthing. Although I’ve never been scared of birth -in fact I’ve always been completely fascinated by it- I rarely heard anything positive about the experience from people I knew or met. Phrases like ‘leave your dignity at the door’ ‘just listen to the doctors’ and ‘you’ll soon realise you want an epidural’ rang in my ears, but my reading and research over the years had led me to positive birth stories so I knew it was possible to give birth confidently and in my chosen location. What I also knew was that I needed some extra education, and techniques to use if I was going to navigate my pregnancy and labour the way I wanted to, as like most of women when they fall pregnant – I had a limited understanding of how best to work with my body!

I had a fantastic experience with my first birth and felt able to navigate changes along the way with ease – accepting care I felt was needed and declining interventions I didn’t. I came away feeling in awe of myself – at no other time in my life had I felt so connected to myself and able to stand strong in my beliefs. I knew I had to share this with more women and when Florence turned 2 I did my training in London and started to teach. Very soon after, I found out I pregnant again. We found the tools I knew more essential than ever as I was navigating a pregnancy considered ‘high risk’. Once again I felt able to make sure I made informed decisions which were right for our family.

I currently offer 1:1 Hypnobirthing in the comfort of your own home – ideal for those with busy schedules or keen for a course which can be focused on your individual situation. As well as Breakfast Birth Prep Saturday morning’s – a chance for mum’s to be to get together for connection, a relaxation session and empowering education over breakfast. I have now worked with families preparing for birth for over a year and I’m filled with joy every time I hear of a new arrival – women filled with confidence and birth partners working with them to create their optimal birth experience regardless of how things go on the day. 

I recently took over Southend Cloth Nappy Library, offering monthly workshops for parents looking to make the transition, and hiring kits out so you can try before you buy. Kits are graded and priced accordingly and more info can be found here. 

I have also started to offer sustainable living support groups / workshops as have become more interested and passionate about leaving our planet in as great a condition as we can for the next generations. I am hoping to evolve these next year, but currently once a month I hold an informal coffee morning with a topic of focus and I recently announced my first kids sessions – a Christmas Special!

If you’ve got questions, just get in touch.

STEPH'S blog


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Chloe Westmore (Infant Massage and Baby Brunch Southend)

Born and raised in beautiful Leigh-on-Sea, I still live here with my husband Tom and my two gorgeous daughters Delilah & Aida. I have a degree in English & Drama, and trained in the performing arts from an early age. I enjoyed a few years working in the industry, however as the bills kept rolling in and the auditions slowed down, I became dependant on more regular work. When I fell pregnant with my first little girl, I decided to look into hypnobirthing and was self taught. I managed to have a wonderful birthing experience despite complications, but I realised pretty quickly how transformative yet terrifying becoming a newborn mother was. There were plenty of tears and many a day and night of feeling utterly alone and out of my depth. I remember feeling powerful at my ability to give birth to such a perfect little creature, but felt completely vulnerable and unprepared for motherhood, especially in those precious but exhausting early weeks. Due to financial problems, I had to return to work when Delilah was 5 months old, which was necessary but unfulfilling.

Fast forward 4 years and another pregnancy with daughter number 2 and I felt completely different. I wanted to build my own business doing something that I loved that incorporated my passions, whilst enabling me to be at home with my baby. And that’s when I met Keri. I started attending her Pregnancy Relaxation evenings and straight away I not only felt relaxed in her presence, but always left the classes feeling invigorated. Those special evening really illustrated just how powerful women can be, especially when they’re lifted up and supported by one another. I had the most amazing birth experience with Aida and through self education on postpartum care, I even enjoyed those special but hectic first weeks getting to know my baby.

That was my lightbulb moment! I had realised I was passionate about supporting and encouraging ‘newborn mothers’ and their babies in their parenthood journey.

When Keri approached me about joining her Do It Like A Mother team, I seized the opportunity and decided to train under the incredible Peter Walker, an internationally renowned physical therapist who has worked with babies, children and parents for nearly 40 years. Combining my experiences of motherhood with a qualification as a Development Baby Massage teacher, I hope to encourage and equip new parents with the skills and confidence to communicate with their child using the language of loving touch and therapeutic play. The benefits will be seen instantly and I can’t want to meet all of you incredible mummys and mummys to be. xxx

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Chloe THOMPSON-BOOTH (Emotional wellbeing)

I am a mother (to my lovely [most of the time] toddler), lover of mothers, and wellbeing warrior; fiercely passionate about supporting and promoting emotional wellbeing in parents. I have worked as a Psychologist for nearly 10 years, initially in Child Development research and later training as a Clinical Psychologist.

My training involved working in a variety of services across London, ranging from child to adult mental health, sexual health and psychosexual therapy, dementia services, and paediatrics. However, I soon developed a specialist interest in perinatal mental health, conveniently around the same time that I found out I was expecting my son.

I started running groups to treat anxiety in expectant parents as part of a research project, which I absolutely loved doing – it was amazing to be able to support women and their partners as they made their journey into parenthood.

During my own pregnancy I was lucky enough to meet the awesome Keri Jarvis when I completed her amazing Hypnobirthing course. When Keri said she was looking to expand her team, I jumped at the chance! I feel very fortunate to be part of a team of wonderful women who are using their various talents to support mothers (& partners!) in a variety of ways.

I am so excited to begin my work offering Emotional Wellbeing Workshops for mothers; these groups are designed to offer support and resources for promoting psychological wellbeing and resilience in the postnatal period.

Because, let’s face it, being a parent is as hard as it is wonderful, and we could all do with a wellbeing boost at times?! I am so looking forward to meeting and working with lots of lovely Mums and sharing my top tips for wellbeing in Motherhood.

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lizzie start (sling hire and babywearing support)

I am Lizzie, an experienced educator and mother of two (Big Brother and Baby Brother) living in Westcliff-on-Sea. My background is in teaching, and I’ve worked in the fields of childcare and education for over fifteen years. I’m a qualified babywearing consultant (aka slings!) and have trained with both School of Babywearing and Slingababy.

Big Brother was born in June 2014, and he was a classic “high needs”, “clingy”, “Velcro” baby (i.e. a totally normal human infant) who wanted to be held most of the time and hated being put down. We quickly learned that a sling helped to calm and comfort him while also allowing us to get on with the practicalities of life – planning a house move, travelling to see family and friends, hanging out the washing, etc. We had a basic stretchy wrap which did the job, and in October 2014 it was how I managed the flight to Norway as we made our move to a new country with a four month old baby!

Babywearing was a real lifesaver through our first Scandinavian winter (our decidedly English buggy was no use whatsoever in the snow and ice!) and I made friends who introduced me to different types of slings and helped me to settle into our new life. I was also privileged to meet a number of amazing women who were supporting the international community of mums living in Oslo, a community I was welcomed into with open arms.

While slings and carriers were and are a lot more mainstream in Norway, there were no sling libraries, and nowhere to really get any support or to learn how to carry safely and comfortably. I had visited a sling library while I was pregnant and again after Big Brother was born, and I knew that they were a great source of support to many families across the UK. Together with my very special friend Magz, we set up Oslo Sling Library in early 2015, and in July 2015 I flew to London for my consultancy training.

Fast forward a year and I was pregnant with Baby Brother and preparing to return to Essex. We had grown from a fortnightly meet in my living room with 12 second-hand slings and a pot of coffee, to a busy drop-in session twice a week as part of a local community group supporting parents in various ways (not too dissimilar to Do It Like A Mother), with a collection of over 150 slings.

I knew I wanted to continue to support other families when I got home, and made plans to set up my own sling library and consultancy once Baby Brother was born. He made his arrival in September 2016 and was in a sling by day two! With a toddler to run around after it just made sense to keep him close while we got on with daily life, and carrying enabled me to meet both boys’ needs simultaneously. Sling Start was launched shortly afterwards, and I started offering sling library drop-ins in Westcliff, Southend and Hockley, and consultations across Southend, Rochford and Castle Point.

In early 2018 I began to work with Keri and her lovely clients at Do It Like A Mother, and in April we launched Cake Club, our weekly drop-in session combining the sling library, infant feeding support and parenting solidarity – with an emphasis on tea and cake at all times too! I joined the team officially in September 2018 and I now have a permanent base at HQ. I offer regular parent workshops on a range of topics, including newborn babywearing and feeding in slings, and attend as many of our regular group sessions as I can to support the parents that are part of this amazing community. 

In addition to the services that we offer locally, I also run Born to Carry peer support training courses around the country (and further afield, if required!) and am able to offer bespoke training to sling libraries and other professionals. 

I cannot overemphasise or underestimate the positive impact that babywearing has had on my life and the lives of my children and family. Learning about slings and meeting other “slingy” people made my life infinitely easier and more enjoyable as a new parent back in 2014. I love being able to give new parents their hands back, reassuring them that it is completely normal and totally ok for their tiny new baby to want to be held all the time. I get a kick out of hoisting a toddler or pre-schooler up on their parent’s back for the first time, giving them the freedom to go for a hike or travel without needing to rely on a buggy.

I am a bit of an advocate for instinctive and responsive parenting, whatever that may mean to each individual family. Many of us come to parenthood with the weight of a thousand opinions upon us, being told how and when to do things, feeling that we have to conform, and that our babies need to behave and develop in a certain way. I meet many families who just want to be told that they’re doing a good job and that their baby is normal. I have spent a lot of time learning about infant behaviour, biological norms and the societal pressures that parents are dealing with today, and it gives me great satisfaction and comfort to be able to support other parents through the challenges of modern parenting.

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  • Day 15 of our #alternativechristmascalender from 
The most important of all your babys milestones, tummy time exploration can begin  from birth, but as it's a learned skill rather than instinctive, it is up to us to enable baby to enjoy safe, supervised and awake time on their belly. •NEWBORNS👶
To help relieve physiological flexion in your newborn baby and give them that first crucial stretch to enable safe tummy time, follow 4 easy steps to encourage your baby to open up, help make friends with gravity and allow baby to lay comfortably on their belly. •TIGER IN THE TREE:🐯
This incredible hold will make the most fractious moments in your day so much calmer.  This hold allows baby to feel completely secure, whilst giving you access to their belly to massage and manipulate in order to relax your baby. By establishing this as a regular holding position you will also encourage baby to feel more comfortable in 'Superman' position. •CUDDLES & NAPS🤱🏻
Any time you baby lies on your chest you are encouraging them to become more comfortable on their front.  Sleep or awake, it all makes a huge difference. So cuddle that baby as much as you can. Let them sleep under your neck. They won't fit under their forever! •SUPPORT👶
From birth up until your baby is strong in their tummy time position, you should always use either a rolled up towel or nursing cushion under their armpits to support baby from underneath. This way they can sit in this position in comfort, begin to strengthen their head, neck, shoulders and core and see the world from a new perspective. •HEAD SUPPORT👶🤚
Particularly within the first 3 months, your baby will be trying to gain control of their head, so always use your hand to support behind, on  their shoulders and upper back whilst they're building the strength to hold themselves up on their own.  Cont in comments...
  • Yesterday was the greatest day I’ve ever had in my business, and I didn’t make a penny. .
This photo pretty much sums up why ❤️ I’ve gotta blog about it pronto, but for now let me say, commit to creating a reality that reflects your deepest desires for yourself, your family, your community, and the wider world. Go on. PLEASE. There’s no feeling like living inside of your dreams.
With enormous thanks to everyone who came along in the morning, everyone who donated to our appeal, and the wonderful @annahirmisbaker for inspiring me to take it to the next level with her constant commitment to kindness.
I am overflowing with gratitude. Gonna stop being so gushy now. Should probs through in an F bomb or 4 to balance it out. .
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #thrivelikeamother #thrivenotsurvive #mindsetofgreatness #thanks #sayyestoyourself #womeninspiringwomen #womensupportwomen #femaleeconomy #womentogether #communityunity #unityinthecommunity #togetherwearestronger #breakthecycle #leighonsea #leighonseaessex #chalkwell #weatcliff #southend #essex
  • DAY 14 of the #doitlikeamother Alternative Advent - from 
14 days of FREE stretchy wrap hire for newborns 😍👶
At Do It Like A Mother we are really pleased to be able to offer a two week free stretchy wrap hire to all parents of babes under 8 weeks of age. . 
Stretchy wraps are a fab first sling for new parents and little babies - soft and snuggly, secure and supportive. They are one long piece of stretchy fabric, usually made of cotton or bamboo viscose, approximately 4-5 metres long, with varying degrees of stretch! I prefer “two-way” stretchies, meaning that they stretch both vertically and horizontally, which makes them slightly easier to use, tie and tighten around baby. Our favourites in the sling library at the moment are @lifftslings @hanababyuk and @boba but we do have other brands available.
One of the brilliant things about a stretchy wrap is that you can put it on, tighten it, tie and secure it BEFORE putting your baby into the sling. Once it’s on you can just slide baby in, secure the fabric around them and you’re good to go, rather than having to fasten buckles or tie knots around your baby. For new parents who aren’t yet used to handling their tiny newborn, this can be really helpful. .
Our stretchy wrap scheme allows you to come at the end of your pregnancy or any time in your baby’s first 8 weeks to try a wrap and take it home. We ask for a £20 deposit and at the end of 2 weeks (or from the date baby is born if you’re still expecting), you can either return the sling for a full refund, or choose to keep it for a 3 month “fourth trimester” hire, which conveniently costs £20. 😉 At that point, many of our families come back to see us, try something else (maybe a buckle carrier or woven wrap) and then go on to purchase their next stage sling. .
If you want to try a stretchy wrap before Christmas you have FOUR opportunities next week in which to do so! 😍 Welcome To The Motherhood with on Monday, Lunch Club Tuesday, Leigh Sling Library Wednesday or Cake Club on Thursday. Get in touch if you need any more info. 📲 #doitlikeamother #theresaslingforthat #doitlikeamotherhq #freestretchyhire #str
  • THANK YOU. Just incredible. Your generosity for our gift appeal for @sos_btc has blown me away. ❤️
Mothering together makes everything a bit better, and I am so moved by the efforts made.
With special thanks to @bookaliciousuk and for extremely kind donations from their businesses. But truly, to each and every person who contributed anything at all, you have made SUCH a difference to families living amongst us. .
📷 @photography_by_petra and her infinite patience ✨
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #locallove #community #breakthecycle
13 affirmations for an empowered birth
You might think it’s a load of crap- repeating statements you’d like to believe. Truth is- our thinking is largely automatic, habitual, programmed. We may not even be aware of our conditioned responses, and in birth, these expectations may sabotage our experience. Beliefs like- it’s soooo painful, traumatic, undignified, unmanageable, terrifying, and so on...
Affirmations support you to shift your perspective, actually carving out new neural pathways in your brain with repetition, and enhanced by an emotional connection to the idea.
Our feelings about birth aren’t necessarily dependent on what happens, more how we engage within the experience, and how we frame it. .
Ask yourself- what would I need to believe in order to feel great about birth?
Here are 13 suggestions for you...
My surges (contractions) cannot be stronger than me because they are me.
I’m actually DOING it (like a mother). .
Each surge of my body brings my baby closer to me.
I free myself from the expectations of others and prioritise my own wellbeing.
My birth partner is by my side, and on my side.
My birth partner is a limitless source of oxytocin- totally convenient.
I am growing in confidence every day- it feels fantastic.
My baby’s arrival will be at the right time for us.
I am growing a human- getting it out has to be the easier bit. .
I am fully supported.
All the strength I need is within me.
I love my baby and my baby loves me.
I’m already a mother, and I act with courage from that place.
  • Now look, full disclosure, I’m atheist AF. But I still thought I’d enjoy a couple of nativities this morning. See my stories to learn how that didn’t quite come together👀🤦🏻‍♀️
It prompted me to think about how crucial it is for us to share these moments- where our hopes and expectations for how a situation will play out are met with a totally different reality.
Your feed might be flooded with beaming shepherds and shining stars, and if your experience was less fulfilling, it’s easy to feel hard done by and to enhance your disappointment through comparison.
I want you to know, everyone is having a mixed bag this Xmas period. For all the grotto snaps and skating shots there are plenty of mediocre, even miserable moments in family life for everyone. .
Look for the humour, be grateful when it’s good, surrender when it’s not quite how you hoped. Just think- Mary had to give birth in a stable- things could be worse 🤣🤪🐄🐑
#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #honestlymothering #motherhoodlens #parentingtheshitoutoflife #nativity #perfectxmas #familylifestyle #honestmothering #motheringtogether #comparisonfree #surrender
  • Day 12 ❤️👇🏻 For the first 12 weeks of your baby’s life it is normal for them to behave (or to want to be treated) as though they are still in the womb. 
Human babies are born far less developed and capable than any other mammal, due to their need to be born at a time in which their proportionally large heads are still able to fit through our biped pelvises. 
Because of this it is beneficial for us to replicate the womb environment closely, as they physically and emotionally develop ready to ‘wake up’ around the 3 month mark. This period is also a huge transition for mothers; a time for healing and recovery however you birthed your baby.
Here are 12 ways in which you can support your baby, or be supported as a new mother during this time. For more details check my Facebook page as insta has kept this shorter! 
1.  GET A SLING – I can’t emphasise this one enough! 
2.  Skin to Skin Contact – It isn’t just for the first hours after birth, skin to skin contact is beneficial to humans of any age and is especially soothing during the fourth trimester.
3.  Read up on biologically normal infant sleep – Understand that it is NORMAL for your baby to fuss at being laid in a cot/moses basket/pram.
4.  Feed Baby On Demand – However you decide to feed your baby, allow them to guide you – expect them to feed little and often. 
5.  Day/Night – Accept that at least initially day and night will just be one continuous cycle of eat-sleep-poop repeat!
6.  Ask for Meals – guests want to come and see you all? Great, but don’t let them in if they’ve not brought you food!
7.  On the topic of food – prepare meals to freeze and stock the house up with healthy snacks before baby arrives.
8.  Let your partner bond with baby – sharing baths together, burping baby after a feed, changing nappies and taking baby for a walk in the pram / sling whilst you rest.
9.  Lower your expectations – accept that some days you will do nothing but keep the baby alive, that’s more than enough.
10.  Be kind to yourself with your body and recovery - It took 9 months to make this baby, expect it to take a while to get ‘back to normal’.
Continued in comments!
  • I said brrrrrrr ❄️ anyone else totally unprepared for the dip today?! .
Popped into @thenookboutique and grabbed a hat and gloves by @misspompom1 ❤️
Head into Chloe and grab a bargain whilst she’s still got stock. .
Got some beautiful Xmas bits in @natural_edge too. Such a joy to go broadway cruising KID FREE ❤️👌🏻
#shopsmall #shoplocal #shopindependent #loveleigh #loveleighonsea #doitlikeamother #shoplikeamother

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